tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17189016.post6036976498010754374..comments2024-01-03T13:53:38.766+05:30Comments on pareltank: Am I a Feminist?kochuthresiamma p .jhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01320086308375078739noreply@blogger.comBlogger25125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17189016.post-87457689850726680482008-12-04T15:32:00.000+05:302008-12-04T15:32:00.000+05:30aw shucks!u want me to jump into the fray..? like ...aw shucks!u want me to jump into the fray..? like silverine said i grew up in an environment that fostered the individual in me...and i brought up my only child-my daughter-to be both aggressive n passive(acc to the situation),both assertive n cooperative,both sensitive n competitive.but if refusing to accept timidly what the patriarchal society dishes out makes me a feminist,then I AM!!!chinnyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15940261709225932473noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17189016.post-58704797209025698232008-11-20T18:11:00.000+05:302008-11-20T18:11:00.000+05:30@Joseph Pulikotil -- I'm KPJ's niece -- After read...@Joseph Pulikotil -- I'm KPJ's niece -- After reading your second set of comments, I could not resist writing this: "You are RIGHT about one thing and that is ..... YOU ARE NO SHERLOCK HOLMES AND NOWHERE CLOSE TO BEING ONE!!!!!"Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17189016.post-14879634911364994722008-11-19T18:39:00.000+05:302008-11-19T18:39:00.000+05:30@Joseph Pulikotil You missed the point I think, th...@Joseph Pulikotil You missed the point I think, the child was told not to clean the yard because he is a boy, it was fine if the mother, sister or grand mother cleaned the yard. It is common in India to consider some jobs too lowly for men, but not for women. <BR/><BR/>I think it is important to teach your children to respect their mothers,and all women. KPJ did that. We worship women but assign Indian Home Makerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10649133480442907582noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17189016.post-77827684901276952802008-11-19T15:35:00.000+05:302008-11-19T15:35:00.000+05:30Hi KPJ :)My conclusion is based on the following p...Hi KPJ :)<BR/><BR/>My conclusion is based on the following points:<BR/><BR/>1)Your father is an octogenarian and has seen the ups and downs of life. You have a long way to go and on the threshold of many more trials and tribulations; joy and happiness.<BR/><BR/>2)You love your son. You want to instill discipline, teach him to do things on his own and prepare him to become a responsible citizen.Joseph Pulikotilhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07074346261093541776noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17189016.post-6742069404922847762008-11-18T09:13:00.000+05:302008-11-18T09:13:00.000+05:30@ joseph pulikotilno sir. it's not a squabble - an...@ joseph pulikotil<BR/>no sir. it's not a squabble - and i think this notion of in law squabbles are outdated. today all concerned are sensible and allow each other their space which has made in law relationships very smooth.<BR/>actually you are trivialising the whole issue by explaining it away as an in law squabble. it was a conflict between gendered mindset(centuries old patriarchal legacy) kochuthresiamma p .jhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01320086308375078739noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17189016.post-90976086719296984452008-11-17T19:37:00.000+05:302008-11-17T19:37:00.000+05:30Hello KPJ :)As far as I know modern women are fier...Hello KPJ :)<BR/><BR/>As far as I know modern women are fiercely independent, demand equal rights, opportunities and pay.<BR/><BR/>However, the incident you have mentioned looks like a squabble between mother- in- law and daughter- in- law. This always happens when you live with in -laws.<BR/><BR/>The best thing to do to avoid such friction is to live separately.<BR/><BR/>Best wishes :)Joseph Pulikotilhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07074346261093541776noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17189016.post-86768495142835883442008-11-17T14:33:00.000+05:302008-11-17T14:33:00.000+05:30@ indain homemakerthe trouble is, all mothers wont...@ indain homemaker<BR/>the trouble is, all mothers wont. see anrosh's comment.kochuthresiamma p .jhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01320086308375078739noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17189016.post-19908309360854597622008-11-17T14:32:00.000+05:302008-11-17T14:32:00.000+05:30@ anrosh"How would you react to the above ?" what ...@ anrosh<BR/>"How would you react to the above ?" what can on say other than may they have some nirvanic experience which will remove the film from their eyes.<BR/>women, who have internalised that social .cultural and historical construct called 'woman', are the worst perprators of gender discrimination - i am always wary of their passionate resistance to the concept of gender equality in kochuthresiamma p .jhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01320086308375078739noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17189016.post-9807371355142122422008-11-17T11:52:00.000+05:302008-11-17T11:52:00.000+05:30May your tribe of Mom's increase.Here's something ...May your tribe of Mom's increase.<BR/><BR/>Here's something a "friend" of mine from bombay told me 2 years ago. "I have given birth to two boys and am very proud of it" <BR/><BR/>Another 30 something who is this so called liberated modern, can-do anything woman says "It is easier to raise boys" and she also says, "i need a man only for sex"<BR/><BR/>How would you react to the above ?<BR/><BR/>My Anroshhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16723150055204555588noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17189016.post-25992342770804201252008-11-16T02:32:00.000+05:302008-11-16T02:32:00.000+05:30Prashanth Feminism is about justice and equality, ...Prashanth Feminism is about justice and equality, not about being like men :)'Equal' is not 'Same'. So when women talk about being equal it means they shouldn't be considered lesser just because maybe they can lift lighter weights.Indian Home Makerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10649133480442907582noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17189016.post-5700394081850669772008-11-16T02:26:00.000+05:302008-11-16T02:26:00.000+05:30This was a beautiful post. I have seen this attitu...This was a beautiful post. I have seen this attitude too. If all mothers remember how powerfully they can influence the new generation, we can make so much difference!Indian Home Makerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10649133480442907582noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17189016.post-28377852938058988912008-11-15T23:57:00.000+05:302008-11-15T23:57:00.000+05:30@sujatha ... yes i understand that.. i was just sa...@sujatha ... yes i understand that.. i was just saying my side of the story(and contributing to the argument)... and i do think there are decent men around :) (i consider myself 1..*boasting :D:D*).. just you may not see them around as much...<BR/><BR/>a simple example on chivalry is.. that most people here open doors for others/hold doors open when they pass through for the nxt person in india Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17189016.post-2628862995810494892008-11-15T22:41:00.000+05:302008-11-15T22:41:00.000+05:30@Prasanth:"...yet they're a bit hesitant to give u...@Prasanth:<BR/><BR/>"...yet they're a bit hesitant to give up little comforts like that aren't they??"<BR/><BR/>Little comforts? You call sitting down and resting your feet from carrying a big belly a little comfort? You are the typical Indian male who will probably make a pregnant woman come to work the next day after giving birth arguing that men don't get three month off like her so why shouldAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17189016.post-62593931984406687262008-11-15T18:49:00.000+05:302008-11-15T18:49:00.000+05:30i'm 18... the kid ran out the door... or so i thin...i'm 18... the kid ran out the door... or so i think :) hahaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17189016.post-18491796903873391302008-11-15T18:45:00.000+05:302008-11-15T18:45:00.000+05:30@prasanth re:bus seats for pregnant womenI remembe...@prasanth re:bus seats for pregnant women<BR/><BR/>I remember being about 8 months pregnant and trying to bend down to fill air in my car tires (that's not unusual for the average 'liberated' female, in the US.) An elderly man who had stopped to fill up his car's tank walked over, took the air nozzle from me and proceeded to do it for me. I was taken aback, but relieved. So, if you ever had the Sujathahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16602206543960349999noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17189016.post-14946693424084206512008-11-15T18:40:00.000+05:302008-11-15T18:40:00.000+05:30Done!<A HREF="http://fluff-n-stuff.blogspot.com/2008/11/feminist-tag.html" REL="nofollow">Done</A>!Sujathahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16602206543960349999noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17189016.post-66463169889278078932008-11-15T16:56:00.000+05:302008-11-15T16:56:00.000+05:30@ silverneyou are singularly lucky to have grown u...@ silverne<BR/>you are singularly lucky to have grown up without listening to "enthokey paranjaalum, nee oru pennaley".<BR/>"But I don't know whether to call me a feminist or not."<BR/>i think you should first define to yourself what the term means and what it does not mean.<BR/>@ freya<BR/>yes, one doesnt have to be a woman to be a feminist.anyone who believed that no one is born a woman but kochuthresiamma p .jhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01320086308375078739noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17189016.post-11335412037860375092008-11-15T04:36:00.000+05:302008-11-15T04:36:00.000+05:30Well, how about it, if a hard-working practical wo...Well, how about it, if a hard-working practical woodcutter found Sleeping Beauty and offered her some kattan kappi or whisky or whatever he was carrying in his flask/kuppi and revived her? :-DAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17189016.post-55463466677468415692008-11-15T03:43:00.000+05:302008-11-15T03:43:00.000+05:30hey ammai,good post again.. and here i feel i can ...hey ammai,<BR/>good post again.. and here i feel i can actually contribut a bit as compared to ur others :)<BR/><BR/>"But, but, he’s a boy, Molly. Boys shouldn’t be doing this"<BR/><BR/>to be honest, mathew's granda could be excused in his views about guys not doing menial chores... admit it, he grew up at "that" time :P<BR/><BR/>i know things are changing now.. women getting a lot more equal Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17189016.post-69313420173041548312008-11-15T02:15:00.000+05:302008-11-15T02:15:00.000+05:30Nice Post KochuT. Good to get the boys do the tag ...Nice Post KochuT. Good to get the boys do the tag too.. Co-incidence we ended up having the same title for this tag!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17189016.post-9851004529462853082008-11-14T19:34:00.000+05:302008-11-14T19:34:00.000+05:30Now that was a very good post. There's sexism ever...Now that was a very good post. There's sexism everywhere, in the house, out of the house.<BR/><BR/>Feminism isn't something just for women, men should be feminists too, if you ask me. No I'm not saying that they should help in women's emancipation or something, but they should help themselves, because patrairchy doesnt just opress women, it opresses men too by laying out set rules. Women sufferedAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17189016.post-49564637068417423642008-11-14T18:39:00.000+05:302008-11-14T18:39:00.000+05:30I may have become a feminist if I was bought up in...I may have become a feminist if I was bought up in a typical family. But my dad ensured that there was no stereotyping in the house. So I don't have that defensiveness which women who have endured male chauvinism have. I used to end up frustrating our mallu MCP's by being absolutely bewildered by their notions. Now I understand why they think a girl should sit quietly (<I>adangi odhungi</I>), do silverinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16474136215458639419noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17189016.post-46939351246689146342008-11-14T13:28:00.000+05:302008-11-14T13:28:00.000+05:30Deepakall the best:-)Deepak<BR/>all the best:-)kochuthresiamma p .jhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01320086308375078739noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17189016.post-10935053927881282582008-11-14T10:34:00.000+05:302008-11-14T10:34:00.000+05:30Aaaagh!!!!:DThis will be my toughest post yet :)Aaaagh!!!!<BR/>:D<BR/><BR/>This will be my toughest post yet :)The one who has loved and losthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15738489354623134522noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17189016.post-73610760342511615472008-11-14T10:15:00.000+05:302008-11-14T10:15:00.000+05:30Thanks for doing the tag KT :-). The simple anecdo...Thanks for doing the tag KT :-). The simple anecdote said it all!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com